LANSING, Mich. (WLNS) – Tonight, parents across the country are struggling for the right words to talk with their children about school shootings.

Some are comfortable talking about the events openly, but others, like mother Kelly Mumby, aren’t sure where to begin.

“The reality for many parents today is, should you talk to your children about yesterday’s tragedy? And if so, what do you say?” Mumby said.

Mumby is a mother of two boys a 9-year-old and a 12-year-old.

“The thought of telling him the ya know the honest truth like 18 kids your age were gunned down in school yesterday. I can’t… I don’t feel like I can do that to him,” Mumby said.

Dr. Amy Nasamaran is a licensed psychologist. She said having a conversation around yesterday’s tragedy is vital.

“I usually encourage parents to be the one to initiate,” Dr. Nasamaran said.

When talking with your kids, Dr. Nasamaran said you don’t have to tell them everything, and you don’t have to have all the answers.

“Initiating the conversation and creating a space where kids can feel comfortable asking questions or kids can feel comfortable sharing their feelings. I think that’s more important than having all the answers,” Dr. Nasamaran said.

In the meantime Mumby said, she’ll do what she can to give her children the best.

“I want to raise my children to be proactive and peaceful and helpful to,” Mumby said.